Most likely since you asked, How can I get my ex back you must believe you love your ex. But, how do you know you love her/him or are searching for a way to get away from the loneliness of separation or divorce. Is it convenience or love? A relationship which has love at its center is a relationship which lasts. Lack of genuine love causes relationships to fail. Sometimes what appears to be love is really like, and it takes much more than liking someone to build and hold a relationship together.
What is love about and what it means to you?
To some people love means thinking about another person often. Longing to be with someone and missing someone when he or she is away. So, often what one considers love is not love at all. Thinking about someone often is not proof of love, sometimes it is only a sign of loneliness. Love is far more than longing for the presence of someone and having someone available. Convenience is sometimes the reason we want to win back an ex. Having someone to talk with if we want to talk is a convenience and not always a sign of love.
Seeing the other person move on to a new relationship causes someone to want the ex back. That is often jealousy but it is not a sign of love. We have a tendency to miss someone when we know longer have the other person in our life. We do not consider the persons absence is due to our negligence in the past. Not giving attention to the one we profess to love leads to a break-up. A large majority of people are immature and unable to love another person, but they are very capable of demanding love and using the other person.
Sometimes people want an ex back because they are too afraid, too lazy or lack the confidence to try and build a new relationship. Seeing someone who professed to love you move on to another relationship can be painful and cause us to feel unloved and unlovable. We begin to regret the way we treated or did not treat our ex whom we professed to love. Not appreciating the value of another until the person is gone is far more common than not. We often do not realize how important the person was to our life. Unless we change the relationship has little chance of succeeding the second time around.
Advice could be helpful or you could try it on your own?
So, if you are willing to seek help and discover your own failures in the relationship and begin to develop the skills required to sustain a relationship, you may succeed in getting your ex back. Taking the same inadequacies back into a renewed relationship is dooming it to failure. If you develop the qualities needed to build and sustain a healthy relationship, then you will have a chance to get your ex back. You will know when you are ready to contact to your ex, reconcile and build a healthy relationship.
Although you should be able to get your ex back on your own, you will have much greater success of doing so with the help of someone that has experience dealing with many relationships for years, so the recommendation is that you should seek professional advice to increase your chances.
You won't regret.
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